Expectations when dating

The only expectation for a first (or any date) that seems to be useful is to make the deepest connection possible/comfortable with our partner. This means we may be silly, playful, introspective, analytic, etc. This connection is made through dialog instead of monolog. "Integral Relationships: A Manual for Men" provides many questions to identify her Kosmic Address, and these questions are useful, but they should not lead for the date to turn into a job interview. Men often think that they need to sell themselves by doing most of the talking (as suggested by Pick Up Artists). And women often encourage this by asking their date one question after the other, only to complain afterwards that the guy was not interested in her. Men who become ware of this sometimes turn the table and start to ask many questions. And then women complains that she felt like she was on a job interview. Hence the idea of communication (with its root in communion), a back and forth that creates mutual understanding and intimacy (into-me-you-see) through verbal exchange.